The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do” Walter Bagehot
I have been thinking a lot recently about why we do what do.
- Why can some people manage their weight and others not?
- Why is it that some people seem happy all the time and live in a constant cycle of struggle?
- How come some couples seem to stay passionately in love and other drift apart?
If you were to ask yourself these questions honestly then I bet you could come up with at least a few good reasons. However knowing the answer is not the whole picture.
It seems intriguing to me that if we know the things we should be doing then why aren’t we doing them? I am reading a book at the moment that provides some great insight to this exact question. The book is written by Tom Morris, a guy who has a PhD from Yale in philosophy and religion (yep he’s clever). Tom says there are only three possible causes for persistent inconsistencies in our lives.
Over the next few weeks we are going to spend some time diving into Tom’s simple framework (called the 3 I’s) that explains a little of why we do what we do. Let me share the first “I”:
We don’t know there is a problem – it might be obvious to everyone else but hasn’t occurred to us yet. Tom gives the example of taking your car to the mechanic, “something’s wrong, I’m not sure what, but it’s making a strange noise”
Ignorance can also show in other ways i.e. we can sometimes know that we have a problem, know what the problem is but be utterly ignorant as to how to bring our actions into harmony to accomplish the desired outcome.
“I am not ashamed to confess that I am ignorant of what I do not know” Cicero
So what is the solution I hear you asking.
Information and expertise are often the solution for ignorance. Track down people who have had success in the area where you are having challenges and take advice – Dr Tony, Dr Kirby and myself could be great resources on anything to do with health. Read a book, search the internet or even ask for advice from a trusted friend.
information brings power and often creates wonderful lasting change when ignorance is the issue.
For many of us however ignorance is not the issue. We know we should be eating differently, exercising, taking time to rest etc but for some reason we just don’t seem to be following through. If that’s the case then perhaps it’s an issue with the 2nd of the 3 I’s – indifference.
In our next newsletter we spend some time talking about the impact of indifference and how to move forward.
Until next time remember nothing is bigger than life